Personal development

February 29, 2016

Lose the label, find the child. Reframing Aspergers.

  “It’s time to take joy in everything that our kids are.”- Dan Pearce. Single Dad Laughing So you have a child with Aspergers. If you are looking for sympathy you’re in the wrong place.  If you are looking for empathy and a way to release yourself and your child from destructive victim energy, you’re right on time; you’re perfectly aligned. Diversity is everything. It brings beauty, it builds love, it facilitates change; it’s a crucial part of evolution. Believing that divergence is a problem is the real problem. Buying into the idea that there are ‘norms’ is destructive and unhelpful. Choosing to re-frame differences is empowering, it breeds acceptance (especially self-acceptance), it cultivates tolerance and literally creates new worlds and enhanced, enlightened […]
April 19, 2016

Approval: Pre-curse-er to unconditional love.

Approval.  For me it’s a word that I now realise is a big trigger, a dynamic that has infused my existance and decsion making with its persistant but largely well camoflauged scent. It always houses the potential to unhinge or even destroy my most earnest efforts and coveted ambitions. Our whole existance is cunningly centred around a constant stream of unconscious messaging that gears us to fall unknowingly into the courtroom of life, where an invisible but powerful judge and jury (often with ourselves as the most critical of back benchers) scrutinize our almost every minute move. From the day we are conceived we are committed to a linear timeline that sorts the wheat from the chaff. We are now usually scanned […]
May 14, 2016

Easy always does it. Calling all Soul Fire to the birthing suite.

I always get what I need when I stop and listen to my Inner Being. She’s wise. She’s kind and She’s great at getting what really needs to be done, done. I was pushing through something today that was beginning to feel the opposite of easy. Even my computer was trying to communicate with me: it kept crashing, not saving my work. ( Mercury retrograde might have been working its trickster magic too!) I finally stopped. Gave up and surrendered.Took my stubborn fingers out of my puny ears. (my soul fire doesn’t mince words .Kali can seem like a weak, fluffy, kitten when She who is Me really comes calling!) I recalibrated to allow an easy vibration to take the place of […]
June 3, 2016

What is love?

WHAT IS LOVE? What is Love? I can tell you what it is not. Love is not tainted by duty Nor by obligation or even loyalty. Guilt plays no part in Loves’ true essence, In the clear waters of its’ pure vibration. Love does not speak in tones of “I know what is best for you” It doesn’t thrive or expand in an atmosphere of control Or grow in to hearty health by the imposition of boundaries, Do’s or don’ts, should’s or shouldn’ts. Rights or wrongs. Love shrivels and withers if there is expectation involved. It becomes a distant many times removed cousin When presented on a platter decorated with fear Or garnished with worry or self gratifying concern. Love is only […]