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March 22, 2017

How our own wounds influence our parenting and how kids heal us.

“The very most profound thing we have to offer our children is our own healing.” – Anne Lammot You know that a-ha moment you get when you become a parent; that moment of sheer fear mixed with utter disbelief that something so small has had such a massive impact on your life, on your very being? That very moment that shatters your view of life so instantaneously is no accident. It is the Big-Bang, cosmic star-stuff that life is made of. It is the jigger that our own evolution is geared to. When you have a child you HAVE to grow. It’s in the unwritten, unseen contract you signed when you chose to become a parent. The small print is so fine […]
November 19, 2016
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Parenting through chaos and crisis.

“A society’s destiny rests on how it treats its’ children.”  Robin Grille. Recent weeks have given rise to unprecedented change and great uncertainties for now and for the future. If you’re a parent, the future of society will be VERY important to you. It is important because it’s where your children are heading.  Concern for  their future is a dedicated parents’ primary motivation.  It’s how we show we love our kids.  It’s why and how we educate them, attempt to keep them healthy and endeavor to embed them with  values we hope will contribute to their sustainablity and well-being. There is an instinctive mechanism that comes to the fore in times of uncertainty.  It’s called protection.  We’re hard-wired to protect our kids […]
May 14, 2016

Easy always does it. Calling all Soul Fire to the birthing suite.

I always get what I need when I stop and listen to my Inner Being. She’s wise. She’s kind and She’s great at getting what really needs to be done, done. I was pushing through something today that was beginning to feel the opposite of easy. Even my computer was trying to communicate with me: it kept crashing, not saving my work. ( Mercury retrograde might have been working its trickster magic too!) I finally stopped. Gave up and surrendered.Took my stubborn fingers out of my puny ears. (my soul fire doesn’t mince words .Kali can seem like a weak, fluffy, kitten when She who is Me really comes calling!) I recalibrated to allow an easy vibration to take the place of […]
April 19, 2016

Approval: Pre-curse-er to unconditional love.

Approval.  For me it’s a word that I now realise is a big trigger, a dynamic that has infused my existance and decsion making with its persistant but largely well camoflauged scent. It always houses the potential to unhinge or even destroy my most earnest efforts and coveted ambitions. Our whole existance is cunningly centred around a constant stream of unconscious messaging that gears us to fall unknowingly into the courtroom of life, where an invisible but powerful judge and jury (often with ourselves as the most critical of back benchers) scrutinize our almost every minute move. From the day we are conceived we are committed to a linear timeline that sorts the wheat from the chaff. We are now usually scanned […]