February 29, 2016

Lose the label, find the child. Reframing Aspergers.

  “It’s time to take joy in everything that our kids are.”- Dan Pearce. Single Dad Laughing So you have a child with Aspergers. If you are looking for sympathy you’re in the wrong place.  If you are looking for empathy and a way to release yourself and your child from destructive victim energy, you’re right on time; you’re perfectly aligned. Diversity is everything. It brings beauty, it builds love, it facilitates change; it’s a crucial part of evolution. Believing that divergence is a problem is the real problem. Buying into the idea that there are ‘norms’ is destructive and unhelpful. Choosing to re-frame differences is empowering, it breeds acceptance (especially self-acceptance), it cultivates tolerance and literally creates new worlds and enhanced, enlightened […]
May 14, 2016

Secret Mum’s Business. The true origins of Mother’s Day and beyond.

A few days have passed since the official Mother’s Day but every day has been my day since I had my first son 24 years ago.  Not a moment goes past where I don’t at some point think of what it means to be a mother. I’m writing my next contribution to Parenting For New Reality: Multidimensional Motherhood.  It’s going to take a while!  I have so much to say, so much to explore and investigate both personally and in terms of societies view of motherhood that I have probably bitten off more than I can chew but I will.. like any brave mother, forge onward knowing that no effort is pointless, no time ever wasted nurturing something or someone you feel […]
August 6, 2016

Letter to the Elves from the Shoemaker: An homage to the ‘back end’, to those unseen who anchor love.

“Once there lived a shoemaker and her husband. They were very poor indeed. The husband took care of the house and meals while his wife was at her workbench. “We’re down to our last piece of leather,” said the shoemaker. “I have enough to cut out one more pair of boots to sell. With all the big factories springing up all over the city, it’s hard to make a living as a shoemaker these days.” With a sigh, the shoemaker cut out the last strip of leather and left it on her workbench.”     I have been fortunate over the years to gather into my orbit a constellation of wonder-full women friends. Not only have they provided copious cups of tea, […]
November 3, 2016

Darling.. Just f…king own it! . Bringing sovreignity to parenting.

One of the greatest gifts we can bring to ourselves as mothers and fathers and to the world, is the gift of reclaiming our sovereignty. Like pretty much every other aspect our lives, (our wealth creation, our creativity, our bodies, our minds) parenting has been kidnapped. Our own innate intuition,  gut responses when guided by love, are pretty much always on the money.  However, centuries of a paradigm that has undermined this inherent power through belief systems that give authority to the other, have left well-meaning, loving parents feeling inadequate and awash at the wheel. Instead of tapping into their innate wisdom which was downloaded into their beingness at birth, ( yes the manual for parenting is in there somewhere) we’ve been duped […]