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February 29, 2016

Lose the label, find the child. Reframing Aspergers.

  “It’s time to take joy in everything that our kids are.”- Dan Pearce. Single Dad Laughing So you have a child with Aspergers. If you are looking for sympathy you’re in the wrong place.  If you are looking for empathy and a way to release yourself and your child from destructive victim energy, you’re right on time; you’re perfectly aligned. Diversity is everything. It brings beauty, it builds love, it facilitates change; it’s a crucial part of evolution. Believing that divergence is a problem is the real problem. Buying into the idea that there are ‘norms’ is destructive and unhelpful. Choosing to re-frame differences is empowering, it breeds acceptance (especially self-acceptance), it cultivates tolerance and literally creates new worlds and enhanced, enlightened […]
March 20, 2016

The Dance of the Divine: Parenting from your Energetic Blueprint.

I write this at the time of the Equinox, which falls smack bang in the middle of a Solar Eclipse (March 8) and a Lunar Eclipse (March 23). Nature’s cycles and their energies planetary or otherwise, play a big part in my understanding of the parenting process. They have for many years been a point of access to increased intuition and subsequent information. As I pen this, the energies of nature are responding and collaborating with those of the Earth, the Heavens and more importantly our own. There is essentially nothing outside of us that influences us; we are not separate but dance a cosmic tango where no one entity truly leads or follows. Everything is connected as our consciousness expands the […]
March 29, 2016

Love is all we need: The narrow isthumus of love and fear.

You cannot say you truly love your child and fear for them. This is a hard one I know.  In my early years of parenting I was all about their protection.  That was my job surely? I was the mother who got all riled up if there was any morsel of injustice or potential danger in the room.  I was the mother who was compelled to fight my corner whether it was in the classroom with the teacher, in the doctors office, with the media, or even with my spouse.  I was passionate. I was I thought, brimming with full bodied love for my precious ones. And then one day I had an epiphany.  It was a little biblical; a bolt of […]
April 19, 2016

Approval: Pre-curse-er to unconditional love.

Approval.  For me it’s a word that I now realise is a big trigger, a dynamic that has infused my existance and decsion making with its persistant but largely well camoflauged scent. It always houses the potential to unhinge or even destroy my most earnest efforts and coveted ambitions. Our whole existance is cunningly centred around a constant stream of unconscious messaging that gears us to fall unknowingly into the courtroom of life, where an invisible but powerful judge and jury (often with ourselves as the most critical of back benchers) scrutinize our almost every minute move. From the day we are conceived we are committed to a linear timeline that sorts the wheat from the chaff. We are now usually scanned […]