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November 29, 2016

All they need is love. Mirror, mirror on the wall….

All they need is LOVE.. A trite, over worn statement perhaps, but almost maddening in its’ simple truth. Parenting was never meant to be hard. We made it so. So what IS this love that we say our children need?   It’s in the ruffling of their hair as you go past them doing their homework.   It’s in the learning to let go of judgment even when it masks itself as good intentioned.  Judgment isn’t the work of love. It breeds division, destruction and distance.   It’s in the seams of the costume for the school play you work on into the late hours of the nigh,t even when you can’t sew.   It’s in the breast that you offer the […]
March 9, 2017

Childhood Obesity. They just don’t get it!

No one is denying that obesity is growing problem in the First World, not just amongst children but for adults too. However, the perspective that mainstream science, allopathic medicine and governments take, is seriously lacking in approach, knowledge and long term efficacy. Why? 1. It doesn’t take into account the non-physical, multi-layered reasons for obesity and indeed all health issues. 2.This current move of the NSW government is tantamount to naming and shaming both parent and child.  The attitude taken is hardly protective, in fact, it’s the opposite. 3.It is discriminatory, divisive, and dismissive. 4.It breaches boundaries of the child, the parent and the teacher.  Teachers are not police or social workers, they are trained to educate.   The last thing an overweight […]
March 20, 2017

Appreciation: The fast track way to Parenting success.

Every night, from the day each of my two children was born, I would whisper into their tiny ears, “You are wonderful just as you are.  You are whole and complete. You are perfect. There is nothing more you need to do. Your very existence is more than enough. We are privilaged to have you in our lives.”   I still say this to them now, as they pass me like giant ships in the night, on their less frequent visits to the family home, and yes, they do roll their deep brown eyes at me and smirk a little from beneath their hairy chins, but I will always say this to them and frankly, they never really protest. Why do I still […]
March 22, 2017

How our own wounds influence our parenting and how kids heal us.

“The very most profound thing we have to offer our children is our own healing.” – Anne Lammot You know that a-ha moment you get when you become a parent; that moment of sheer fear mixed with utter disbelief that something so small has had such a massive impact on your life, on your very being? That very moment that shatters your view of life so instantaneously is no accident. It is the Big-Bang, cosmic star-stuff that life is made of. It is the jigger that our own evolution is geared to. When you have a child you HAVE to grow. It’s in the unwritten, unseen contract you signed when you chose to become a parent. The small print is so fine […]