March 29, 2016

Love is all we need: The narrow isthumus of love and fear.

You cannot say you truly love your child and fear for them. This is a hard one I know.  In my early years of parenting I was all about their protection.  That was my job surely? I was the mother who got all riled up if there was any morsel of injustice or potential danger in the room.  I was the mother who was compelled to fight my corner whether it was in the classroom with the teacher, in the doctors office, with the media, or even with my spouse.  I was passionate. I was I thought, brimming with full bodied love for my precious ones. And then one day I had an epiphany.  It was a little biblical; a bolt of […]
April 7, 2016

Fickle or Free? What Woman knows.

He who lacks courage to pursue his purpose (and his own commitment to true freedom) will lack the passion to ravage your soul.  Wait for the man who feels you, listens to you, considers everything you have said, and then claims you, taking you to where you couldn’t tell him to take you- even if you tried. – David Deida  The beauty and potency of a woman lies in her complexity.  It resides in her multi-dimensionality, her ability to transcend even the shortest of moments and morph into a million states of BE-ingness. Patriarchy is afraid of this.  When a man says he cannot fathom a woman or sees her as confounding, confronting or problematic she is merely reflecting back to him […]
April 17, 2016

I Can Only Do Deep: The light of darkness.

I Can Only Do Deep. I cannot do superficiality. A surface dweller, a pond skater I cannot be. It seems I can only do deep. Deep seemed heavy I used to run and hide from it Or at best, attempt to secret my deep from the eyes and ears of others Until I realised, That in the dark of deep Lies a light so bright. In the heart of grief Lives a fire so strong A flame that we eternally long for. In the seed of this dark, dank deep Dwells the bud of all that’s new Potentiality, re- birth, great growth. I cannot do superficiality A surface dweller, a pond skater I cannot be. It seems I can only do deep. […]
April 19, 2016

Approval: Pre-curse-er to unconditional love.

Approval.  For me it’s a word that I now realise is a big trigger, a dynamic that has infused my existance and decsion making with its persistant but largely well camoflauged scent. It always houses the potential to unhinge or even destroy my most earnest efforts and coveted ambitions. Our whole existance is cunningly centred around a constant stream of unconscious messaging that gears us to fall unknowingly into the courtroom of life, where an invisible but powerful judge and jury (often with ourselves as the most critical of back benchers) scrutinize our almost every minute move. From the day we are conceived we are committed to a linear timeline that sorts the wheat from the chaff. We are now usually scanned […]